What I love most about my following, is that they’re small but they’re loyal and oh so loving. Every so often I get emails from you guys supporting me, showing love or at times just to share a good laugh. But I also get a lot of questions. The other day one of my YouTube subscribers emailed me asking the following; how’d you get so confident? And when responding back to her, I realised I couldn’t really sum that up in one sentence. So! You guessed it, I decided to write a post about it because I believe this could really help some of you guys. Like any other person, I too have my insecurities but at least I can confidently say that I love myself. And everybody deserves to feel this way! So here goes nothing: 5 things that will definitely help boost your confidence.
1. Examine your environment
Confidence is an inside job and it’s nobody’s responsibility but your own. Therefore take responsibility of every aspect of your being and a huge part of who we are is whom we surround ourselves with. Remember that saying; ”Show me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”. The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us become the best version of ourselves or a lesser version of ourselves. We become like our friends. Nobody becomes great on their own. We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose and challenge us to become better. This is gospel! A little environmental cleanse has also led to spiritual cleanse and a better version of me. But this applies to us all. First and foremost, take responsibility of the energy you bring but also the energy you allow around you. You will never become who God has set you out to be when you surround yourself with people who literally suck the living energy out of you.
2. Workout and eat healthy
Now when you look good, you feel good and when you feel good, it’s because you look good. That’s an oldie but a goodie. I’ve been working out for years because I used to model and I was also a dancer as a teen. This has definitely helped me with my confidence over the past years. Exercising is great because it helps you blow of some steam and it’s a great way to start your day. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that may leave you feeling happier, more relaxed and more confident. Other perks is that it controls weight and there is no greater confidence boost than seeing results of a good work out routine. Same goes for healthy eating and drinking water especially. You are what you eat! Living healthy will lead to feeling healthier. It’s that simple.
3. Embrace your flaws
You are who you are and once you learn to love all of that, not parts of it but all of it, you will feel more confident. Men do it too but mostly women compare themselves to one another. Why am I not pretty like her? Dress like her? Have her job? Or her body? Basically her life?! So on. Many young women either beat themselves down over what others have, create intense jealousy or a strong sense to compete. Which is a waste of time. Don’t magnify the things you don’t have but focus on what you do have and what you can do. The most beautiful thing about you, is that nobody is like you. You are unique and the ideal version of you, is what you already are. Exactly how God has made you. When you simply stop chasing an ideal that is not authentically yours, you give way to what is true and authentic. You give more space to follow your life purpose without obstacles. Being the best version of yourself in line with your life purpose has got nothing to do with being perfect.
4. Read self help and educational books
The best self help book in my humble opinion is the Bible. If you didn’t know by now, your girl is a loyal and dedicated follower of Christ. And reading, studying and meditating over His word, has helped me to put a lot of things into perspective. I found my identity in Christ. Right now I have a true and accurate understanding of who He is and who I am to Him. It wasn’t always this way. It’s something that immensely grew over the past 7 months because I made space and time to really dive into the Word and study. Plus I go to a great church I can now call my home. However I know not all my readers are Christians and wouldn’t be able to relate on that front. Point is, reading a good self-help book will always help you to reflect, look at yourself and discover some errors that you may not have recognised before. Knowing is half of the problem already solved. So if you educate yourself on the root of your low self esteem, it will strengthen and motivate you to successfully do something about it.
5. JUST DO IT!
Sometimes it’s al about stepping out and doing that one thing that frightens you. It’s usually when things are unfamiliar or might feel a bit uncomfortable that it could be life changing. It’s mainly our insecurities that keep us from doing things that will produce fruit in our lives. In those moments you have to tackle that fear and just do it! Challenging yourself can help you perform at your peak. Don’t stay in a place of comfort and familiarity. There’s actually a lot of science that explains why it’s so hard to break out of your comfort zone, and why it’s good for you when you do it. With a little understanding and a few adjustments, you can break away from your routine and do great things.
Making these major changes has worked for me and helped me out a lot. I’m pretty sure they’ll work for you too. It’s something that I had to work through over the span of a couple of years, with this year being the hardest. However the space I’m in now is better than ever! And if I can do it, you can do it too. Just be you and be happy! You deserve it.. xx